“If you’re lost … if you’re gone … if you can barely absorb the words on this page … I want you to hold this truth in your heart: when it’s your time to go, you won’t wish you had spent more time grieving; you’ll wish you had spent more time living.”
— Christina Rasmussen
When you lose something precious — a partner, a child, a piece of your identity, a cherished belief, or an unrealized dream — it can feel as though your whole body shuts down.
But your brain? That’s another story.
Your brain is actually primed for reinvention — new hope, new light, new perspectives.
It’s the most powerful tool for getting past grief in the world.
You just have to learn how to use it.
This book shows you how to do it.
With clear-spoken science + inspiring stories, SECOND FIRSTS: Live, Laugh and Love Again guides you through The 5-step Life Reentry® Model: a revolutionary process that turns the whole notion of ‘getting past grief’ inside out — taking loss out of the spotlight, and placing life front + center.
With life after loss pioneer Christina Rasmussen as your guide, you’ll discover how to move out of the ‘waiting room’ of grief + create the life that you want.
“Second Firsts will change the way you think about life after loss. With simplicity, science, and raw authenticity, Christina takes you on a journey from a world of loneliness and pain to one of possibilities and action. Her kind and knowledgeable words provide hope and show you that loss can actually inspire the strength and conviction to create the life of your dreams. And her own life stands as a testament to the power of this process.”
#1 New York Times best-selling author of Love for No Reason and Happy for No Reason
“Second Firsts will take you on a journey where you get to rediscover yourself no matter the loss or the heartache you have experienced. It will not ask you to wait for time to heal you, that’s for sure. Instead it will take you by the hand and lead you to a path of reentry with actions, steps, and tools.”
— Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., best-selling author of A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness
The secret? Bravely committing to a series of new challenges + experiences — what Rasmussen calls “Second Firsts.”
The second first haircut.
The second first date.
The second first vacation.
The second first job interview.
The second first love of your life.
With each Second First, you’ll re-wire your brain to reward you for taking positive action — creating a powerful cycle of self-encouragement.
It’s a simple, yet incredibly effective process that has already transformed thousands of lives, around the world.
Now it’s your turn.
The book is in stores now!
Join Christina + friends for a whole month of life re-entry + reinvention — online, offline, and beaming straight to your phone.
What the experts are saying about Second Firsts
“Christina Rasmussen brilliantly carries the torch for all of those who have suffered loss. She has created the life reentry process that will help all people of all ages, and Second Firsts will be the guidebook for those who are ready to let go and choose life again.”
New York Times best-selling author of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff for Women and Heartbroken Open: A Memoir Through Loss to Self-Discovery
“Christina Rasmussen rode the roller coaster of exhaustion, hope, anxiety, and despair along with her husband throughout his battle with cancer. After he passed—just like everyone who loses a loved one—she faced the additional challenge of rebuilding her life. In Second Firsts, Christina does more than share her remarkable regenerative journey. She shows us why we must start living again and how to go about it. This engaging, touching, and helpful work is a must read for anyone facing or coping with the loss of someone close.”
—Edward J. Benz Jr., M.D.,
president and CEO of the Dana Farber Cancer Institute
“This powerful book guides us through five transformational stages that awaken the journey back to life after loss. The steps ignite the fire within every human soul who has experienced a death or a divorce. Every word is delivered with compassion and truth. Christina is certainly not afraid to tell you to move on if you have been stuck inside that Waiting Room of loss for far too long.”
star of the international bestseller The Secret, feng shui master, and global transformational teacher, author, and speaker
“In this moving book, Christina has drawn on both her personal and professional experience with grief to assist those who are suffering to find their way to a new ‘normal.’ In Second Firsts you will discover how to move from merely surviving to once again thriving.”
New York Times best-selling author of Dying to Be Me
“If you have experienced loss in your life, Christina’s book will quickly empower you to vibrantly refill, renegotiate, and embrace your broken-hearted spirit. Please, use your limited time and energy wisely and seize her Life Reentry® program early in your grief. It will undoubtedly be a big victory for you and the universe. It’s a realistic, strategic, life-shifting, never-look-back program based on neuroscience and personal experience that leads you to feeling more genuinely alive than you ever thought possible.”
founder of Modern Widows Club
“We can all learn from the wisdom of those who have experienced loss and survived. Second Firsts can be your life coach and direct you to heal and create a new life.”
– Bernie Siegel, M.D.,
Author of Buddy’s Candle and 365 Prescriptions for the Soul
“Second Firsts is about creating a bigger life after loss. It is about dreaming of a brand-new way to fall in love again with living fully. It is certainly not an easy task, but this little book makes it easier.”
– Karen Salmansohn,
Best-selling author of The Prince Harming Syndrome and The Bounce Back Book
“Second Firsts is a practical guide for anyone who lost too much and forgot to get back to life. If that’s you, get this book and start living again.”
– Thomas Kersting,
Nationally acclaimed psychotherapist and TV personality
“Christina gives people who are dealing with the physical and mental pain of grief hope for a sunnier tomorrow. I only wish Second Firsts was available to me sooner. This book will be on my night table forever.”
– Jackie Hance,
New York Times best-selling author of I’ll See You Again